Dear friends, the loss of family and friends really was the most heart breaking part of this journey for me. I know most of you have also experienced my same kind of pain and heartache. I did come from a very close family and I was the oldest. I was their “got to” person for 35 years and then in a split second the “me” they knew was gone. I believe their grief was as great as if I had died…..or possibly worse in some ways. There is a protocol for death there is no protocol for TBI! None of them knew how to properly grieve their loss of me and I can see that today. I know that none of them are proud of the way they have treated me because I knew them so well. I also realize they no longer had a clue how to treat me, so they chose to ignore me for their own peace of mind. I have gone forward with my life and realize they had to go forward with their lives without the me they once knew and loved. I don’t have to like it but I can forgive them. I can forgive them because I did know who and how they were prior to my injury. In retrospect I do know their behavior was not what anyone would have expected or been able to foresee. As there is no BI handbook for us there is also no handbook for our loved ones. We all lost a lot in this brain injury journey including many of our family and friends. If we can understand this much we can learn how to put that severe pain in a perception that will hopefully allow us to find some understanding and inner peace! We weren’t the only ones that needed love and understanding our family and friends needed it also! We could not help them with their pain just as they don’t seem to be able to help with ours more times than not! You are NOT alone!